Sunday, June 6, 2010

A much needed update on family

I'm sure that most of you all read the posts that I have posted about troubles with room mates and how I was getting tired of doing almost all the major housework around the house. Well as of the end of May they decided to move out to his sister's whee they would have FREE rent and FREE food. Something that we could not and would not have given them. Paul was signed off the lease on the 22nd. Then on the 24th or so they came to get most of their things. And said that they would be back to clean up the bedroom. Well it had been about half a week since they said that and never showed. So almost a week or so later being the 1st of June My lil sister Amber came out from Peoria to help me clean up what they had left. She cleaned down my sons room with bleach water to be sure it would be clean enough for him to play in and not get sick. Beings I'm pregnant she was very stern that I not help on that part so I was able to get other parts of my home back in order. She is such a lifesaver. With her help we were able to get Logan's room cleaned up living room straightened up and kitchen somewhat was done which would have taken me days to do with having to care for Logan too.

On another note I am now I guess on the outs with his little sister, Brittany, because I told her how I felt about the way she acted when she was a house guest in Jeremy and My home. Most was started because She was upset that she was blocked from my facebook wall which at the same time blocks pictures as well. She was blocked from that back in February or march whenever it was that I had a run in with Melissa. When I stated about my sons b day landed on hers. She had only given Jeremy a partial story on what was going on which made me look out to be some horrible person to my husband. Then it happened a couple more times after that and I was done defending myself to my husband just because she wasn't telling the whole story so I blocked her from viewing it.

We'll when we got news and pictures that our baby has a birth defect having to do with his lip. Called a cleft lip, She went to view them after Jeremy had showed her already using my account since it was still logged on my puter. She got all upset that she couldn't view them, then assumed that I was blocking her from seeing her nephews pictures.

This is what the messages were that were sent between her and I

Between You and Brittany Bureau

Brittany Bureau
May 28 at 6:52pm
so why is it that i cant see the baby pictures? i saw some of them that Jeremy showed me at your apt but i don't understand why your wall and those pictures are blocked from me.

Stephanie Bureau
May 28 at 10:48pm
I blocked you back when we were having all the issues of the slightest thing i said on here you would tell Jeremy. And I was tired of him only getting partial information from you like the Missy b day situation. I ended up reading him the whole thing when I had asked him if you told him everything that was said and he said no. After that it seemed like no matter what I said you were telling him like i was trying to start something when I was just flat out frustrated and no one seemed to be understanding or even cared what I was saying. So i figured i would stop it right there. Cause I was tired of getting ridiculed by him for things that were said and taken out of context. I shouldn't have to be afraid of what i say when I'm saying how i feel
Stephanie Bureau May 28 at 10:53pm
P.s. I did unblock you. I was just very upset at that time.

Stephanie Bureau June 1 at 4:03am
Well Jeremy told me some of what was going on in the messages that were sent between you and him. You may have thought that what was said about the key was rude. that is your own opinion. But coming into someones home that they are allowing you to stay in cause you needed a place to stay and not helping out unless you were specifically asked was rude too. We had a few group discussions and only towards the end after things started getting bad was when you guys started cleaning off your dishes and after your meal. But you both used the bathroom as much as we did and still had to be specifically asked to help clean it. I'm sorry but with Paul not having a job he could have helped keep the kitchen and bathroom cleaner then what they were. I came home every night after work and cleaned up the dishes to make sure that the roach problem didn't worsen because of food and stuff left on the counters and floors attracting them. So how about that for rude. We had no Problems taking you guys shopping and picking out things you guys liked and we shared what we liked with you guys, but when it came to you guys buying anything if it didn't have to be refrigerated it was kept in your room. or if it was in the kitchen we were either told it was yours or we just left it alone cause we didn't want you guys yelling at us for eating your food. How about that for double standards Like I said Jeremy and I had NO PROBLEMS helping you two out but it didn't and still doesn't seem like you were very appreciative of the help we gave you two. And I'm sorry that you think that i'm such a horrible person for flat out letting you guys know how i felt about things. Or how i let you guys know something needed to be cleaned up. You guys are grown adults and shouldn't have even been asked to clean up after your own messes. I don't sugar coat things and I have told you that in the past.

And Im sorry that you think me wanting drama to stay out of my page is such a horrible reason for blocking people from my page and makes me "childish and immature". I have flat out written that on my myspace blog and it states it on my facebook wall. I told you the reason why you were blocked and when you had been blocked so for you to assume that you were blocked from my children was wrong thinking on your part. And it wasn't two days ago from the 31st you wrote me on the 28th about it and I unblocked you the same day you asked me about it so that you could see the pictures.

I never had a problem with you as a person. I just wished you had a little more common courtesy to help more around the house especially before you were pregnant. I understand that you have not had the best luck for your pregnancy so far and did not take that against you in the least, but Paul could have helped out more esp when you started not to feel good. And the fact that he was not working.

Another thing that irritated me was your lack of communication with rent. You always waited till last minute to tell us have Paul tell us or I didn't hear anything at all and just waited till Jeremy handed it to me and told me it was from you for rent. That made it difficult to budget what we had to spend for house hold items and when fs was lowered made it hard to budget money for groceries.

I really hope that things do look up for you so that you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I hope that Trystan is doing well.

I just hope we can work through the issues and at least be able to talk when in the same room even if you never consider me to be a friend. That is fine. But if we can at least be respectful of each other and how each other feels that would be nice. You guys are more then welcome to come over to visit anytime as long as there is some notice in case we have plans. I never intended to make you mad at me for anything or to piss you off. And about the wedge in the family. Until recently I always encouraged Jeremy to go visit you guys' mom when he was feuding with her. And you can ask Jeremy that yourself and he will tell you. He made the choice to keep Logan from your mom because of being tired of the drama that she creates not me. You were not here when he made that phone call to her.

But that is all I have to say. If anything offends you then im sorry but that is how I feel and how I felt at the time that certain situations was going on. Take it as you please. And Jeremy is always more then welcome to know anything that I say to any one. If he asks me about it I tell him the truth even if I have to read him what i write word for word. I hide nothing from him.

For me writing that last message on the 1st at 4:03 am I was called a stupid bitch who's husband should cheat on their stupid ass and find a better woman as he laughs and also said that the service wasn't that great. Yeah that's a great way to show gratitude for getting to stay with someone and them basically letting you skate by because they don't have a job and looking for one and can only afford their car payments.

Brittany Bureau
well, let me just start out by saying there is a difference between expressing yourself and being a bitch. what i said to jeremy was between jeremy and i, and frankly was none of your business. i dont appreciate the fact that i told him i was done with you and you send me this long and very rude message. you throw in phrases like "so how about that for rude" and "how about that for a double standard" which are just provacative and honestly quite bitchy sounding. i understand your need to "express yourself" but at least learn the proper way to do so. now, ive kept my mouth shut with things i have wanted to say to you because i had a feeling id snap at you, and out of respect for jeremy. apparently though, being his sister and family means nothing to you because youve continually talked like this to me and my family. im tired of hearing excuses about how "she doesnt realize she's doing it" and "im just blunt," no youre just rude. there are many blunt people i know that still can talk to someone without sounding the way you do. like i said before, there are ways of expressing yourself and saying how you feel without being disrespectful.Yes, i agree i could have helped more, but after i helped you clean the entire house and jeremy just sat there i was annoyed. then when you cleaned it again you once again allowed him to just sit on his computer but you complained about me not helping. before we moved in you constantly complained about jeremy and then after you complained about us. we did pick up the living room and bathroom. i did a few times when i first moved in but i stopped because you guys would let logan trash it and not pick it up. paulie did the same thing with the bathroom. he cleaned it and you guys, the very next day, had your dirty clothes all over the bathroom. and im sorry but there were many times when you were unemployed that you didnt clean up. i was there. jeremy and you fought about it cause he didnt understand why you didnt pick up. but paulie, on the other hand, did pick up after us. he isnt your guys maid though and you shouldnt expect him to pick up after everyone. and we didnt get mad when you asked us to pick up, it was HOW you asked. you werent "blunt" you were rude.

    • dont even mention me yelling about the food. you are the last one to talk stephanie. ive personally heard you yell about your food being gone; cereal, graham crackers, granola bars, etc. i mean you went as far as to not buy foods like cake or whaever because you didnt get enough of them. and about the wic stuff. wow. to quote you "i could be a real bitch and not let anyone eat this stuff because technically its all supposed to be for me." you guys never even bothered to ask me about the wic stuff, you went to paulie and said it should be for everyone and i didnt say anything about it. i figured it would be for everyone.

      you didnt even tell jeremy what you were saying to his family. he had no idea that aunt missy was even mad. im sorry i thought he deserved to know why everyone didnt want him around. maybe i didnt tell him the whole thing, i just told him what the person was mad about. but no matter how much i was annoyed or irritated with you, i never went and blocked you. you know, if you didnt say things like you do there would be no need to hide your page from people. and its not wrong thinking for me to assume you would block me from the baby's pictures seeing as how that was the only album blocked. i could see all the pictures but those of him. so if you blocked me so long ago why would those be included?

      as far as talking to you about rent, i talked to jeremy. why would i talk to you? you were bitchy and rude because you didnt want us there. and everyone knew it. we knew it by the way you talked to us and the looks you gave. and i know youre going to try and say you didnt but you did. and it doesnt matter who talks to you about it as long as someone does, whether i talk to jeremy or paulie talks to you. and im sorry but you guys lectured me on buying a five dollar pizza when we were complaining about money but you guys started complaining and then i dont know how many times i saw fast food wrappers and bags and all the makeup and just crap you would buy from work. i know you get a discount but still, if youre really hurting you wouldnt be doing that. it was really hard when there was no food in the house and you guys would go get fast food instead of going to the store, leaving us nothing to eat.

      like im to the point now where i dont want to be around jeremy. i cant talk to him without getting some rude offensive message from you? oh and i heard what you told kim about us. how we left you a huge mess and you didnt know how we could live in there. THERE WERE ROACHES ALL OVER THE APT. IVE SEEN YOU SLEEPING ON THE COUCH AND HAVE ROACHES CRAWL ACROSS YOU! YOUR OWN MOM DOESNT LIKE YOU COMING OVER CAUSE YOU LEAVE A MESS.

  • Brittany Bureau
    June 17, 2010
    Brittany Bureau
    • we told you guys we would come back to clean it, yeah we didnt do it the next day but we were going to. and you complained about the roaches to people before we even got there. you guys would have messes all over too so thats very unfair for you to say that about us. we moved out isnt that enough for you? just stop talking about us already. its like you want there to be no drama and yet saying that is obviously going to start it. that was none of anyone's business. period.

      i love logan and jeremy and i will love my nephew as well but i cant take the way you talk to me or my family. you say everyone needs to respect your opinion, well be respectful when you speak and they just might. and i also heard about the "joke" you made about andrew's middle name. thats not funny. its not something you joke about. george loves andrew and gave him that name. you should have asked andrew or talked to him about it before deciding on giving him that name anyway. im sure andrew would have been excited. its these hurtful comments that you make that i cant stand. there are things you say and dont say, and things you joke about and dont. yes, this message sounds bitchy. but i just dont know how else to say this because yours was so rude and im just beyond frustrated.

      im not going to delete you from my page cause i still would like to see pictures of logan and gabriel. however, i dont appreciate you acting like nothing happened and like you dont talk behind my back. what you said to kim was it for me. we left and you kept talking. im done now. i dont want a long message back, i dont even want a reply. i hope everything goes well for gabriel, im glad to hear it wasnt a major cleft issue.